There are so many things that people will tell you, you need. Many of these things are simply unnecessary babies don’t need to be expensive and they don’t need a whole bunch of stuff. They need you, food, shelter, and your love. With that said here are 12 things new parents don’t need for baby.
Yup, I said it. You do not need a crib. I could right a whole post on why we didn’t get one. We had Owlet sleep in a Moses basket until she could roll then we went out and bought a mattress. You read that right. We’ve never owned a crib, we didn’t even have a toddler size mattress until Owlet was about 3 months old. After she could roll she either slept on that mattress or on my chest, in our bed.
2. 1,000,000 Swaddles
I don’t know about you but when I got pregnant everyone started throwing swaddle blankets at me. Flat ones, velcro ones, snappy ones, there were so many swaddles I still have nightmares. We are now down to about 8 swaddles but since its recommended you don’t swaddle after about 6 months I usually use them to cover the stroller. Since the blankets are made for air to penetrate them, and not be super hot, they’re perfect to cover the stroller so Owlet doesn’t have the sun in her eyes. My suggestion would be to hold out on buying these things before your baby shower because if your family and friends are anything like mine you. will. have. plenty.
3. Newborn Diapers
Ok so obviously if you have a premie you’re going to need newborn diapers. But here’s what awesome, if you’re giving birth in a hospital they provide diapers for you! So for 4 days (depending upon your health and babies health and all that) you don’t need to use the diapers you’ve bought and stashed away! It’s fantastic. SO, barring any serious medical issues or super tiny weenie babies, we probably won’t need newborn diapers. By the time you get out of the hospital, you should be able to just jump right into size ones. You could even do cloth diapers!
4. Baby Shoes
Let me tell you something: NEWBORNS DON’T NEED SHOES. I know, shocking, right? I see so many infants wearing shoes and its terrifying. Shoes at too early an age can harm a babies feet, for life! Read more about that here.
Wait until baby is walking to go out and buy shoes. Until then you can keep babies feet safe and warm with socks. Once you do buy shoes keep up on the size of their feet. Owlets feet are huge for a 9 month old, she’s already in size 5’s, and they’ll just keep growing. Quickly.
5. Brand New Clothes
You will get sooooooooooooo many clothes. People can’t resist. Unless you aren’t having a baby shower, or have no friends, or something you WILL get clothes. If you end up being one of the rare few that don’t get clothes or don’t get enough. Go to a second hand store. Many people are so against this and I can’t figure out why. You aren’t a horrible parent for saving money on something they’ll wear, maybe, 3 times. You’re child will not care. No one will know unless you tell them, not that it matters. I’ve seen baby clothes at thrift stores that still have the tags one them! So heed my advice, pay $3 for that cute little onesie, instead of $15.
Full disclosure, we have a swing… and we had a bouncer but ended up donating it because Owlet liked the swing better. Is it helpful? Yes. Could I have lived without it when Owlet was an infant? Yes. Before Owlet started rolling, her swing was where I set her when we both needing some down time. The reason we buy swings and/or bouncers is because babies like the back and forth motion, it soothes them. But, if you’re on a budget or live in a smaller space, a good alternative is laying a blanket down on the floor and setting them there, for tummy time.
7. Changing Table
We don’t have a changing table. We have a dresser. Get a dresser people, I cannot tell you how useless changing tables are! There is nothing special about them, I promise, you aren’t missing out on anything magical. They are just another product that someone invented, to slap the word “baby” on and sell for too much money. If you want a specific place for changing baby get something that they can grow into and use forever rather than something that, once they’re out of diapers, you’ll just sell or give away.
8. Wipe Warmer
Unless you’re baby has some sort of condition to where she can’t get a cooled off butt…….
Think about it; babies butts are always warm because they always have diapers on! Talk about humid conditions, right? So they might squiggle because something cool is touching their, usually warm, butt. But they aren’t going to get Pneumonia because their butt got cold for a second.
9.”Baby” Specific Detergent
Any detergent that says “baby” on the bottle is just an overpriced invention for paranoid parents to second guess their laundry detergent. You do not need Dreft or Honest brand or anything else that claims to be better for baby. They only thing we did with our detergent is go from something that had a pretty scent in it to one that said “free and clear” on it. Look at your brand of detergent, if it has bleach, dyes, perfumes, maybe find the “”free and clear” version of the brand you already use. But with that being said we used the same detergent we always had for about 2 months before Owlet got a little rash and THEN we changed. So my advice would be to just keep what you have, for now. If
your super paranoid baby does develop a little rash it’s most likely nothing to worry about, just change your detergent and go from there.
10. Crib Bedding Sets
I don’t know about your circle but mine is super crafty! I got tons of beautiful crocheted blankets, in fact I donated all the blankets that weren’t hand crafted because I had that many blankets. Crib bedding sets are useful if you are buying everything yourself and you are only getting one set and you want everything to match. Which means you’ll have one blanket, one sheet, etc. Even then it’s a super pricey way to get all that. But, if you’re using a crib, bumpers are quickly going out of style since they’re a safety hazard and that fluffy blanket can’t be used until baby cab roll, so that makes many things useless until a certain point. Owlet is nine months, she sleeps with a blanket at the end of her bed and we’ve never used it. Of course, we live in the armpit of CA so people in colder places obviously need to use blankets. My advice is to get 2 crib sheets and 2 mattress protectors. That’s it. That way when one gets soiled you can quickly swap it out for the other. Chances are you’ll get plenty of adorable blankets at your shower, but if you don’t head down to your local thrift shop (or Target, if you insist) and get 3-5 baby blankets. Done!
11. High Chair
You do not need a stand alone high chair. If you get one at all I highly recommend the Fisher Price Space Saving High Chair. I hate bulky high chairs, they drive me nuts. But with the Space Saving High Chair, you just attach it to a chair you already have at the table and remove it if you need to. You can also just set it on the floor and feed baby that way.
We’ve used this high chair a handful of times and, of course, it was useful but it’s usually just easier to sit on the floor with Owlet and feed her that way. We do intend to keep this high chair, though, since it turns into a booster seat and that will be super helpful when we all start sitting at the table together. If you’re on the fence about getting a high chair at all, I definitely recommend the Fisher Price Space Saving High Chair.
12. Diaper Bag
You need something to haul babies stuff around but anything that has “mom” or “baby” attached to it’s name is going to be super overpriced. You can get by with a messenger bag or backpack that you may already have!
All in all what you need and don’t need is up to you and will be an ever learning process. The list above is what we have found hasn’t worked for US. You may find that you need a swing to keep from crying at night, then dammit, get a swing! My opnion (or anyone elses for that matter) should not cost you your sanity! Follow your instincts and they’ll put you on the right path.