Now there are a couple reasons why we didn’t get a crib. First off both Daddy Owl and I think they are the most ridiculous things invented. Do you know why cribs exist? To keep babies and toddlers in one spot. “Michaela that’s a good thing,” you say, is it? Is it really? I want to teach my child independence and that her body is her own. I would be teaching her the exact opposite if I were to put her in the tiny jail cell called a crib. It has bars and everything, don’t tell me it doesn’t resemble one.
I just want to say that if you do use a crib, I don’t judge you. You’re doing what works for you. So are we.
A lot of people think that the only way baby will safely sleep is in a crib and that’s just not true. For one thing, with just a mattress there’s no bars for her little legs to get stuck in, no need for crib bumpers and no need for a mobile because all she has to do is crawl out of bed and play with a toy that is nearby. She’s fallen asleep countless times simply by me leaving her alone, with the door shut while she plays with her toys.
Some parents have a thing against their baby sleeping on the floor and, to be honest, I don’t get why. Maybe because they associate sleeping on the floor with the family pet? Well stop, as long as you have clean floors, there is nothing wrong with baby sleeping on the nice, soft carpet.
Many people say that they don’t want to bend down to have to put their baby to bed (thus, getting a crib because it’s set up higher). Um… ok, well then don’t. You can have a mattress on the floor and not have to bend at the waist every time. Daddy Owl just slowly gets down on his knees when putting Owlet down. I usually just squat and keep my balance.What I love about having a mattress on the floor is that I can lay with Owlet, we can cuddle or I can read her to sleep.
And if she wakes up in the middle of the night or from a nap I wait a few minutes, sometimes she falls back asleep all on her own. Sometimes she doesn’t and she’ll crawl out of bed and come knocking on her bedroom door so I’ll let her out.
What I love about having a mattress on the floor is that I can lay with Owlet, we can cuddle or I can read her to sleep. And if she wakes up in the middle of the night or from a nap I wait a few minutes. Sometimes she falls back asleep all on her own. Sometimes she doesn’t and she’ll crawl out of bed and come knocking on her bedroom door so I’ll let her out. Either way, she’s free to do what she wants. That means if she wakes up in the middle of the night she can play with a toy then fall back asleep, (yes that has actually happened) instead of waking us up.
Another option is having your child sleep with you, in your bed. There has always been this huge controversy over co-sleeping and I just don’t get it. People scream about how unsafe it is and how fearful we should be of SIDS. You know what’s scary? SIDS can happen anywhere. Whether your child is sleeping on your chest or “safely” in a crib. Sadly, there is not a place where you can set your infant down and they will magically be immune from SIDS.
So enough with the fear mongering. If you are one of those parents that haven’t slept since god only knows, because you’re always trying to put your baby in their crib and they cry instantly when you set them down, stop. Lay with your child. If it scares you for whatever reason, then research co-sleeping, understand how to do it safely with infants.
If you know you’re a heavy sleeper and you’re afraid that you’ll roll over them and crush or suffocate them; you know what there are these built in things called instincts and you have them. Daddy Owl… ~sigh~ he could probably sleep through the apocalypse. I have to shake him awake, he’s the definition of a heavy sleeper. So naturally when Owlet started sleeping with us he was a bit nervous but she was sleeping on my chest so he was calmed by that. Owlet is now 9 months old and he hasn’t rolled over her once. Anytime he’s gotten near her he’s woken up, cuddled her then rolled the other way and fallen back asleep.
I understand that every child is different. For some kids, a mattress on the floor just won’t work for them because they aren’t wired that way. There is a reason that there are different ways to do things. It’s so we can find what works best for us and our children. I’m writing this to let you know that there is another way to do things. We’ve never used a crib, from the very start, and it has always worked for us.
Let me know in the comments what your thoughts are. Do you use a crib? Why or why not? I look forward to reading your responses!